“Couples spend nearly one-third of their lives sleeping together, or at least trying to. With different sleep needs, preferences, and problems, it can be as much work trying to get a good night's sleep together as it is getting through our waking hours. And a poor night's rest bodes ill for happy faces in the morning and throughout the day.
If you're not sleeping well with your bed partner, you are not alone. It's a big problem.”
🛌🏽 A 2020 study published in Frontiers in Psychiatry revealed that participants who slept with a partner slept longer and had more stable periods of REM sleep.
But sleeping together isn’t all deep sleep and lottery dreams. There’s the snoring, cover-stealing, splaying across the bed, sleep-talking… and your loved one probably has some unsavory info to share about your sleep habits, too. (We have been accused of moaning in our sleep, but there’s no hard evidence to back this claim.)
Like any aspect of a successful relationship, the key is compromise. WebMD comes to the rescue with tips for sleeping well together.
(As an aside: if you find your joint sleeping issues insurmountable despite your best efforts, then you may find the path to domestic bliss is through a sleep divorce.)
☁️ If your biggest problem sleeping is your bedmate’s never-ending quest for a comfortable position, a mattress upgrade may be the best way to say, “I love you... but I need my rest.” To help you out, Sleep Advisor has rounded up the best mattresses for couples.
Whether you’re looking for extra cooling or separate-side firmness control to keep both Mama Bear and Papa Bear happy (or even extra bounce for those non-sleep bedtime activities), you’ll find some great suggestions for maintaining a happy relationship.
👃 Despite the potential for problems, there’s something comforting about sleeping together. The warmth, the security… and did you know that even the smell of your partner helps you sleep better?
If you can’t be together in person, though, don’t despair: just sniffing a t-shirt your loved one has worn can have the same soothing effects. And for an added level of comfort, have you considered sleeping together via video chat?